Would You Ever Consider Moving In With Your Girlfriends?

I’m almost 70, and my girlfriends and I have a plan. We’re going to move in together.

When I asked AI who has done something like this before, what the pitfalls are, and what my first step should be, it felt doable. Very doable. And knowing that more and more of us are thinking about this makes me feel not alone.

Nobody wants to be alone. And really, nobody wants to be lonely.

About a month ago, I had breakfast with a friend I’ve known since I was 18. I brought it up. She said, “Oh my God, that’s what I’ve been thinking about as well.” A few weeks later, she sent me a list she had started with another friend. It was dated 2019. I had no idea she’d been thinking about this too.

It isn’t just her. My colleague Lauren lives on the East Coast. She moved back to take care of her parents, and she lives in the same building they do, in her own apartment. So technically she’s not alone, but she lives on her own. We talk about this often. We don’t want to end up alone.

A few of my girlfriends have been having this conversation with me for a while now. Maybe we buy a huge house, as long as we all have our own space. Maybe we buy a piece of property, a compound. Maybe we buy tiny homes and put them all together. The shape keeps changing. The reason doesn’t. We don’t want to live the rest of our lives alone.

Some of my friends have devoted kids who live near them, so when that time comes and they need support, their kids will be there. My kids don’t live by me. I’m sure that’s true for a lot of women, and men too.

Not long ago I saw a post by a woman asking if anyone else was thinking about this. I told her it’s been an ongoing conversation for us. When she asked where we’re thinking of doing it, I wrote back: “At this point in the USA! We are still a few years out, but it’s clear, I don’t want to live my next chapter alone! We are better together.”

Is this something you’re thinking about? Would you ever consider moving in with your girlfriends?

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